Saturday, October 31, 2015
Is Marriage and Romance Dead?
In reading the play The Importance of Being Earnest, I began to question all that I knew about romance. The couples Jack and Gwendolyn, and Algernon and Cecily acted as if romance was not required in a relationship, which is the complete opposite that any one person learns when dealing with relationships of that caliber. They treated marriage as if it were some game, and the goal was to make it look good to everyone else no matter if there was real love in it. To me, a marriage requires: love, trust, compassion, respect, communication, friendship, etc. the list goes on. Marriage is a special bond between two people, and people should not get married just because they feel as if they have to, or to make themselves look good. Gwendolyn reminded me of many people in our society today that just look for someone just to be with someone, and for it to make them look better. She agrees to marry Jack, not because she has known and loved him, but because his name is Ernest. She marries him for his name. She did not even consider if she really would want to be with someone for the rest of her life. Which is the complete opposite of romance. This began to raise a question for me, is romance dead? Do people care about love like they used to, or is marriage just an option that people are forced to take in life? There are so many occasions where I see married couples who just are not happy at all, who get married to make their parents happy, or just because that IS the thing to do when you become an adult, right? Yes, there are those special couples who still do love each other, and actually want to be together, but are the people of my generation jumping into relationships just to be in a relationship? We are all still teenagers, but these are the years that we're supposed to be experimenting and figuring out what we want/need in a relationship. Instead of actually figuring it out, people are just dating to date, for people to know that they have a partner. This worries me, are we going to be the generation of married couples in loveless marriages? We are not doing the right things in relationships now, when we are supposed to be learning about it. So, will we ever know how to love, will romance ever recover from this?
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